A flourishing relationship can be a source of joy, fulfillment and support in an often difficult world, but what happens when the relationship itself becomes difficult? If you find yourself rehashing the same argument over and over again with your partner or if you’re experiencing pervasive feelings of isolation, anger or resentment, couples therapy can be an incredibly valuable tool to get your relationship back on track. Perhaps everything seems fine in your relationship, but you want to make sure you and your partner have a support system as you navigate a life transition together. Read on to find out how you and your partner can get the most out of couples therapy, whether you’re hoping to turn a troublesome situation around or mitigate conflict before it begins.

  • Choose a qualified therapist you feel comfortable with. Ask your counselor about their preferred approach to couples therapy and their experience in the field. The first step to a successful therapy process is making sure you find a counselor you trust with a genuine investment in their work. Scheduling a consultation allows you to feel out a counselor before committing to the process, so you can ensure the counselor is the right fit for you and your partner.
  • It’s not if you fight, it’s how you fight. There’s no need to be discouraged about the state of your relationship when you and your partner argue. Even in happy, healthy relationships, conflict is bound to arise when you share a life together. The key to a well-functioning relationship is to fine-tune the way that you argue, so that you can communicate your emotions and needs while respecting those of your partner.
  • Have compassion toward yourself and your partner. You and your partner might have reservations about the couples therapy process, and perhaps even reservations about your relationship. But remember that you’re in this together. The fact that you’ve sought couples therapy means you care deeply about each other and your lives together, and that you’re willing to take action and work hard to preserve, strengthen and even transform your relationship. Whether you’re seeking healing, resolution of an old conflict or support through a transitional period in your lives, this is a step in the right direction.

If you live in St. Paul MN or the surrounding areas, Benjamin Wolf is an excellent choice for a caring, experienced and trustworthy counselor. Call (612)643-1920 to schedule your consultation and take the first step toward a healthier relationship with your partner.