The loss of a loved one can deliver a tremendous blow, whether it was sudden or expected. Friends and relatives of the departed may have a hard time communicating their feelings of grief and sadness to one another, or even to themselves. While it may seem as though trying to “get over” the death of a loved one is the fastest way of coping with grief, the opposite could not be more true! Open communication about your feelings with those who are also reeling from the loss can help begin the healing process and bring closure to this difficult time in your life. Here are some tips for opening the lines of communication when you are dealing with the loss of a beloved relative or friend.
Feel Your Feelings- When someone close to you dies, it can feel like part of you has died right along with them! You may find yourself unable or unwilling to talk about the loss of your loved one, even with others who are also in mourning. Then again, you may feel like celebrating your loved one’s life by telling jokes and funny stories that remind you of him or her. Both of those impulses are completely normal. Take your time to feel every emotion as it comes along without self-judgment. There is no right or wrong when it comes to your feelings- allowing yourself to feel each one, and encouraging others to feel their emotions too, can help bring a sense of calm and healing to this tumultuous time.
Reach Out- If you are one of several siblings and are coping with grief that comes with the loss of a parent, you can imagine that your brothers and sisters feel about the same way you do right now. By calling, texting, or visiting with them, you can help them open up about how they are dealing with their grief, as well as offer each other support and stability as you navigate the new reality of life without your loved one.
Don’t Censor Yourself- Perhaps the death of your loved one has left you with feelings of anger, betrayal, or even guilt. You may think you should keep those emotions to yourself so as not to anger or hurt any other family members or friends who are also mourning the loss of the departed. While it may be uncomfortable sharing these kinds of emotions with your inner circle, your therapist’s office may be the perfect place to unleash some of these more complex feelings. Being able to communicate openly about each emotion you are experiencing over the loss of your loved one can go a long way toward finding a place of healing within yourself.
If you have recently lost a beloved friend or family member and need to talk through your feelings with someone, licensed psychotherapist Ben Wolf is here for you. Conveniently located in St. Paul, Ben Wolf can provide you with the tools you need for coping with grief and finding closure, healing and happiness on the other side. Don’t keep your emotions inside any longer than you have to- Ben Wolf is here to lend an ear and a helping hand so you can process your grief and get back to living your life to its fullest. Call Ben Wolf’s St. Paul, MN office today at 612-643-1920 to schedule a consultation and begin your journey towards healing.